Dating: It’s a headache, these days.
We’re linked to each other, but whose on the other side of the dinner table listening? Is this movie good or are you just here because you feel sorry for Forrest Gump? Or better yet, whose actually reading your texts/emails or are they deleting them as soon as the message is sent? Does anyone really care about you? Without the thought and idea that a huge money payoff can be made if they be with you, spend time with you, fake sex, have kids for your money and/or even smile at you for something free to feed their needs & habits. Which in the long run, your the one who ends up hurt, alone, friendless and furious. Turning the world into a same sex lovers ipond -or should i say, bible text meaning of Sodom and Gomorrah.
We talk about dating, relationship and marriage like its truly a fairly tale in our social lives, when it turns out our none communication skills with one another is dumb and distanced with no guidelines; what we really want and need in a partner makes it out to be a tall tale -dark or very scary, if not careful with our direct comments/statements. If you meet someone online or at a bar, I believe women still have the mere power to be straight forward with the guy and just say no! If he’s a real man, he should accept the no and walk away. The scary part is most women fear men due to the fact that one crazy man says hi to them in a bar or online that freaks them out. Hello ladies, not all men are dogs! Some of us are large cats (tigers, lions, panthers) -yeah a animal of that dominates the dogs. In meaning, ladies will you be able to spot a tiger cat over a hyena dog in a bar, club, mall or online -when you’ve grown up around dogs all your life? Yes, I know its hard to spot a real man (a Lion aka king of the jungle) but don’t cancel every man out just because a list of fools treated you bad in the past. I’m from a different breed of mankind, if you put me on that dog list -you better have a good reason why or you’ll find yourself alone wonder what did you do. Because I don’t turn back for lost love. I’ve presented myself to you once or twice -so you can either accept me a friend or hate me. Due to me having the charm to always put a smile on someone face. I don’t ask for much, just a BFF, a woman ..not a spoiled, girl with no dreams of her future. I am King, how do you expect me to make you queen if you don’t want a royal garden around our castle?! Love has to meet some where between us but don’t let foolishness befriend us to part ways.
I’m currently done with dating, admiring beauty-smarts-skills, helping people and even looking for a mate! Even though thats my choice, my choosing to spend a lifetime alone? Maybe! Because I never asked for it to be that way. Alot of people admire my talent & skills, over the person who manages those talents & skills! -huh? yeah, confusing and a flat out lie if someone ever told you “i like your artwork, not you”. Why is that a lie? Example: How could you love Shakespeare writings but not admire the him, the man who took the time to write Romeo & Juliet. Yet, none of us in this lifetime even met Shakespeare but his legacy is now written in stone. At the end of the day, you don’t have to love the artist but you do like his/her work because his/her work is the meaning of the artist and part of the artist legacy, its what makes the artist -bright or dark-minded.
Judgement at each other these days is more than bullying, its shameful that we even do it -without getting to know who the person really is. If you know what you want, why continue to lead people on -when you never expected anything in return? Why, because you asked for something in your private time and when God presented your wish to you -the likes of it never got to you to love it cause you didn’t like what you seen at first sight and/or hear say. So in the search of finding my BFF (best friend forever), if you think you can hang with a busy, multi-talented, successful, gifted person like myself? I only ask for five things you should remember. If one rule is failed, then I know why your pretty smile even tried to come into my life from day one. So ask yourself, what is friendship? I advised every women to quit posting online messages that you’re single and looking for a mate, if you can’t be trusted and only posting personal info to gain more freaks as fans to build your fanbase up. If you really want to be with someone? Then he/she has walked in you’re life many of times by now but you’ve allowed your friends to chose who you should be with, meet and even which store to not enter. Their friendly crush at first sight is not what you believe in, what you want, who can support you, know you inside out, take care of you and actually get everything about you besides buying you a flower that will soon die in a week standing in water anyway. Love is not a game! It passes from one rose to another, it continues through other vine yards -even jumping over to a grapevine (celebrate each other with wine is happiness). Umm yeah, that person your friend choose for you only wanted sex huh? lol But the person you like/love, is taking care of you no matter who you are but you never gave him/her a chance to love you personally because he/she don’t fit into your friends circle of royalty.
“There is a castle built on on every island, if you stand alone inside a circle of wannabe’s, how can a prince sweep you off your feet -when you’re too scared to have your own country!”
CHAROD BFF RULES
- BE YOURSELF
- My job is to make sure you feel comfortable as possible. Hoping my security background don’t scare you off but knowing who I am from the start is good. Therefore, when your around me -you’ll see why I personally choose you over others. So yes you don’t have to fear me or anyone else in the world if I’m your friend, because of my reflex to protect your space, loyalty, vision, body and friendship first. I’m a gentleman, so relax. This rule is always a good way to meet new people because you can get to know each other pretty fast within a hour, if the person is real or fake or just putting on a show. I ask all my friends to just be themselves, its not flirty. It’s letting everyone in the room know -hey chill out, Charod is here, you can trust him. - HAVE COURAGE
- When your around me, texting me or evening tweeting me; Don’t be shy to talk to me! If I’m interested in you or not, I’ll do my best to reply back with manners. Why? Because I have rep to protect -if I’m single or taken, I don’t want to be known as the weirdo from myspace. Plus my business is based off of social media so I have to be careful what i say in person or online. We all make mistakes but make sure you stay original with your comebacks, jokes, flirty quotes and hello’s. Trust me, once you figure out a little bit about me -your fresh creativity, not being ashamed of us in person or online ..I will bring you in closer and give more of me & my life day by day. This rule is quoted alot in my poetry as ‘Take Control’. Meaning, i can talk all day but if I’m boring you out then take control and tell me about yourself -if I don’t see the boring vibe first to ask ‘tell me about you’ , ‘what do you want to do’ and/or ‘want some ice cream’. Have courage to take control of our friendship. - DON’T LIE
- Rule #1 is being yourself around me at times! So why would you feel as if you have to lie to me. If you do lie to me? Please pull me to the side and explain to me why did you lie. Then it’s up to me to decide if I should forgive you or not. As friends/partners, we’ve suppose trust each other no matter what therefore, I’m pretty sure if I let in my life once -I can find a way to forgive. But just letting you know, if you follow rule #1 and rule #2, their shouldn’t be a rule #3. Also as the male friend, your lie will have me feeling as if I wasn’t there for you -which brings me to rule #4. - FIGHT FOR US
- For the millionth time, I am here for you -no matter what! No matter how far, I’m suppose to always find time to listen to you. Because why else would I call you my BFF. As the man of this friendship, I have to do my best to stay faithful to us as you do the same. Due to how men attack another man’s bff when they see them standing alone for a few seconds. The real thing about a true friendship is making a promise to always be there and never let anyone creep in and break us apart over miscommunication. This rule is the second most important, because if we let love stand -no one is suppose to change that and you shouldn’t be ashamed to say that’s my bff; claim me, showcase us a team, support my business as i yours and let the world know we’re one and that if something bad happens -that we’ll retaliated and kickass. Fight for us is more than a crush, it’s love between one another. I can fight for you because your the female of the team, but if you’re not fighting for me? Then we’re not bff. That would make me a bodyguard or fan! - COMMUNICATION
- The one thing that can make a relationship last forever or end very quickly. With all the rules above applied, talking to each other is the key to knowing each other inside out. Even though after years of hanging out or reacting to each other zodiac love vibes, it’s the most important rule here. Telling each other everything will be ok but being speechless is NOT helpful to your partner. Let’s me know that you care and give a damn about us two. Why? A friend who is down on life and feel that their bff is never there will turn into heated arguments, fights, distrust and lost of loyalty. This rule sometime seems like you’re back in HS with puppylove. For example: I can be nice to you every month, one time month but if your going through hell at home and I’m here to fix the problem, comfort you, listen all day -why would you hide me from your life, issues or dreams! That’s not a true friend. Your bff is someone you trust more than a cell phone & diary book -yes, I know that’s hard to find these days in a human but just think -if you don’t tell your bff what’s wrong or what’s good? Then the trust issue can reverse on you for not telling each other what’s going on. We as best friends made a vowed to grow together, fight for each other and help each other; so tell me whatever you want me to know because if I find out what’s wrong with you or what goodnews you hid from me -I will be upset at you for keeping us distanced. I will forgive you in the end but knowing I could’ve helped you overcome a issue or been there to cheer you on and you didn’t ask me to help, show up and/or join? We will have a long convo about what just happened and I will make you promise to me, never keep me distanced again -if I got the resources to help/support asap. Communication between two bff’s in love; is a sexual desire, love fever so don’t let your personal feelings, rage, other friends divide yourself from talking to a person you like/love the most.”True love is the passion of one’s self, matching what’s in common with each other; a dance with one heartbeat agmonst two people, the prefect moment when you’re looking into each other eyes -as a form of communication to say take my hand, you can trust me.”
You got a friend in me – but do I have a friend in you?
I’ll fight for our love – but will you fight our love in return?
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